An engagement ring is a cherished dream of almost every girl and her parents. But this piece of jewelry not only adorns a gentle hand, but also endows its owner with magical power, protects the hearth from all troubles and misfortunes.
A lot of superstitions have accumulated about wedding rings. All of them concern mainly family happiness. For those who wear the attributes of marriage or are just going to put them on, it will not hurt to study folk signs about wedding rings in order to choose and use them correctly.
Buying wedding rings
Signs and superstitions about wedding rings dictate what they should be and how to buy them. Popular rumor claims that these nuances affect the future married life.
When to buy?
Oddly enough, there are also superstitions on this score:
- You need to buy wedding rings after the engagement, when the groom proposed, and the bride and her parents accepted him.
- Marriage symbols cannot be purchased on the wedding day.
- Both rings must be purchased at the same time in one place.
If the groom wants to give a ring at the moment of the marriage proposal, it should be an engagement ring. It has a special power. If a girl gives her consent to the marriage, then wearing the engagement symbol, she cannot flirt with young people.
Who Should Buy?
According to ancient signs, the groom must personally choose and purchase. Times have changed, the range of jewelry has expanded significantly, so the presence of a bride in a jewelry salon is permissible. She can help with the choice, but the man must pay for the purchase.
How to choose?
In order for the family amulet to show all its strength, the wedding ring must be chosen correctly:
- It is better to opt for the simplest smooth and even rings that will attract the same impeccable calm family life.
- Do not engrave marital attributes so as not to test your further happiness.
- Prefer items made of precious metals. The favorite of the newlyweds is gold (yellow, white, red). This is a symbol of material wealth. Some newlyweds choose platinum as a symbol of the strength and inviolability of marriage. Silver is also allowed.
- It is accepted that these paired jewelry are made in the same style, from the same metal. If the rings are different, one is made of silver, the other is made of gold, then the spouse on whose finger the silver jewelry flaunts will dominate the family.
- When choosing, trust your taste, pay less attention to fashion trends. Fashion is changing rapidly, a wedding attribute should adorn the hand for a long time.
- You need to buy wedding rings in a good mood. If not, the purchase should be postponed.
If you think about wedding rings, you imagine an accessory with stones, you need to know the signs about these additional inlay elements:
- Aquamarine – the keeper of the family hearth, will prevent adversity.
- Amethyst is a 'catcher of happiness'.
- Turquoise is a symbol of loyalty and love.
- A diamond is a sign of strong family ties, personifies the success of a person and a marriage union.
- Pearls – health and longevity.
- Emerald – the stone of Venus (the goddess of love), enriches intimate relationships, drives away disturbing thoughts.
- Moonstone is a protector from quarrels.
- Opal is a symbol of trust, sincere feelings.
- Ruby is a sign of eternal love, a defender from the evil eye.
- Sapphire – purity and morality, will help keep the couple faithful throughout their lives.
- Zircon is a deliverer from longing for love.
There is one more useful sign. Upon returning home with a successful purchase, before the doorstep, say out loud: 'For a happy life, for a strong family! Amen!'
Can I take someone else's?
It is highly discouraged, not only to use it for the wedding ritual, but also to simply try on used wedding rings. No matter how profitable buying used rings is, you need to refuse it. And also you should not accept as a gift or borrow wedding symbols from friends.
Superstition on this score states:
- Together with other people's jewelry, you can accept someone else's fate, most likely bad.
- Expensive items are ideal for spoiling. When a person gives or throws away a jewel, together with it he strives to get rid of a serious illness or other misfortune, shifting problems onto this thing.
Can engagement jewelry be tried on before the wedding?
According to signs, wedding rings cannot be worn after purchase until the wedding ceremony. Actually, there is no need for such a fitting, there is only simple curiosity. The magic of the wedding ritual lies in the novelty of sensations, so the newlyweds put on each other rings for the first time in the registry office or during the wedding.
Signs about wedding rings are not allowed to wear these accessories until the wedding itself. It is recommended to fill them with water in a single container and freeze them. But if the bride wears a wedding ring, it means that the girl keeps clean until the wedding. In this case, wearing a ring is acceptable.
What if the bride loses her engagement ring?
Losing any ring is a bad sign. It is much worse when the wedding or engagement ring disappears. This suggests that the wedding may be upset, that the girl is unsure of her feelings, or the young man made an insincere proposal. In this case, the bride and groom must listen to their feelings so as not to make an unfortunate mistake.
If the jewelry accidentally flew off the bride's finger, and the future newlyweds are sure of their desire to start a family, you urgently need to buy the same jewelry exactly as it was. The bride must continue to wear it.
How to handle wedding rings?
When married, wedding rings must be handled very carefully.
Is it allowed to rent or sell?
They cannot be taken to a pawnshop or sold, because this is tantamount to exchanging family happiness for money. You can also lose something very important in life if you sell the ring of your deceased spouse.
But after the divorce, the symbols of the former marriage are a brake on the creation of new relationships, finding another family happiness. They should be removed from the house (sold, donated, or even thrown away). Moreover, if you just melt the ring, it can preserve the energy of the disintegrated union and continue to spoil life.
Dropped wedding ring on mural
This is a bad omen, foreshadowing a quick separation, but it is easy to neutralize it. To do this, the witness must stretch a white thread through the ring, and the perpetrator of the incident (the 'muddler,' who dropped the attribute) must burn this thread with the words: 'Fire, take all our troubles and sorrows.' It is believed that the thread will take on a bad omen, and the fire will destroy it completely.
Why shouldn't newlyweds touch an empty ring box?
After the main attributes of the wedding celebration are on the fingers of the newlyweds, the bride and groom should not pick up the box or pillow on which the engagement symbols rested. This thing should be taken by those who want to get married as soon as possible (the girl can be from among the friends or relatives of the newlyweds).
A ring stand (box, pillow, saucer, etc.) has the same magical power as a bridal bouquet, which is usually thrown into a crowd of girlfriends at a wedding. The empty ring box becomes a kind of 'catcher' of the new wedding.
Can I wear a ring on a glove?
This question is of interest to brides, whose gloves are an integral part of the image, and newlyweds with various hand defects, serious or minor.
It is strictly forbidden to put the ring on the glove only during the wedding. When engaged in a registry office, there is no such strict prohibition. It is customary to take off the glove during the exchange of rings, even for reasons of practicality. To put the jewelry on the fabric, it must be larger than necessary. It will be inconvenient to wear such a ring in the future, it is easy to lose it, or you will have to hold it on your hand with the second.
Is it possible to give to try on other people
'An engagement ring is not a simple piece of jewelry …', so you can't even let other people hold it, let alone try it on. It is considered:
- If a stranger measures your ring before the wedding, it can frustrate all wedding plans.
- If a stranger takes your marital attribute after the wedding, he steals your marital happiness.
In addition, until the celebration, it is not even recommended to show wedding attributes to anyone other than the closest relatives.
Can I shoot?
In the old days, after the wedding, it was not accepted to remove the attributes of marriage, because they are a symbol of love, a talisman against any shocks and serious illnesses. It was believed that when a person takes off his wedding ring, he and his other half are left without protection.
But modern experts (doctors and esoteric experts) do not recommend constantly wearing rings in order to avoid blocking the energy flow. In practice, jewelry has to be removed while doing wet work. It is recommended not to wear the wedding ring yourself – the spouse must do this every time. This will maintain the strength of the union.
Some women get scared when the husband doesn't wear the ring. Of course, you need to be vigilant. Suddenly, a man does not want to open his marital status to a passion or mistress. But many representatives of the stronger sex simply do not like to wear jewelry, they are annoyed by unnecessary elements on their hands.
Which finger to wear the ring on
The placement of the ring on the hand is as important as the symbolic jewelry itself. Traditionally, wedding and engagement rings are worn on the ring finger. Only in the United States and most European countries, the marriage sign is on the left hand, and in Russia – on the right. The reasons for these differences are not clear. After all, the ring finger of the left hand is directly related to the heart. It is quite logical to wear the symbol of love and fidelity on it.
Women pay more attention to convention. Therefore, you can find out about a lady's marital status by the jewelry on her hands:
- The ring on the ring finger of the right hand is evidence of the woman's marriage.
- Marriage attribute on the ring finger of the left hand – the lady is divorced. Sometimes a widow's wedding circle or women who dream of a divorce are put on this finger.
- 2 wedding rings (one on the middle finger, the other on the ring finger) – a widowed woman remembers her husband and remains faithful to him. On the middle finger, a woman wears the thing of her deceased husband. If such a combination of marital attributes is on a lady's hand with her husband alive, this is a death wish for her husband.
- A wedding ring on the little finger is a desire to improve family relationships. Therefore, if the ring becomes small, it can be worn on the little finger without prejudice to the marriage.
All of the above rules apply to men. Only the representatives of the stronger sex often do not wear wedding jewelry. But an experienced look allows one to judge the marital status of a man even by the trace of the ring on his finger.
Can parents' wedding rings be used?
The marriage attributes of older relatives can be passed on to future generations if the parents' marriage was long and happy (people lived at least to the silver wedding).
Family heirlooms may or may not be worn, but they cannot be melted so that the accumulated positive experience does not disappear. If the jewelry does not fit, it is best to store them together carefully in a jewelry box. This way they will be of more benefit to the new family.
Other signs about wedding rings
There are many beliefs about wedding rings. For example, if the husband leaves home, the wife just needs to look after him through the wedding ring, and the man will definitely return. Wedding decorations serve as a talisman for the whole family, and not just for the one to whom they belong. For example, if a baby is sick, you can put a father's or mother's wedding ring under his pillow, the child will quickly recover.
The magic power of the ring is obtained as a result of reading special conspiracies over them, or during religious rites (engagement, betrothal). It is clear that any troubles with such expensive items (broken, cracked, blackened), cause alarm in their owner.
If the engagement or wedding ring is cracked, this indicates the instability of the couple's relationship. There are several explanations:
- The thing warns the owner of the spouse's infidelity.
- Breakdown portends a difficult period in the life of a family with the presentation of mutual claims and stormy showdowns.
- Damage to the ring indicates the appearance of an enemy who wants to embroil the spouses, conjures against them.
In the latter case, the thing deteriorates, taking on other people's bad thoughts, averts trouble. Therefore, you do not need to torment your partner with suspicion in vain. Better to buy new rings and exchange them. Moreover, it is important to buy exactly 2 new jewelry so as not to break the pair. Old rings can be melted down into other jewelry.
If the wedding ring turns black, it brings sad thoughts. In fact, it is due to the low quality of the metal. If a real gold ring or a finger darkens under it, it says that there is a lot of negativity (envy, enemies) around, and the wedding attribute takes it upon itself.
Other signs
- If the ring becomes small, it can be 'rolled out'. According to signs, an increase in the size of the rings prolongs the happy period of marriage.
- Lost ring – a sign of an upcoming major quarrel, which could lead to divorce.
- Found a gold wedding ring – a harbinger of a repeat of the series of events that you have already gone through. It is advisable not to take or carry someone else's thing.
- Lies at a crossroads – you can't take it. Surely someone is spoiling him.
- The golden ring bent in your hands – you have to become the culprit in creating problems with your spouse.
One of the main prohibitions is that no one should be allowed to remove the wedding ring from your finger! Then your marriage union will last for more than a dozen years.
